New Year New Resolutions 2024
As cliché as this might seem, new year resolutions are always intriguing! Personally I am curious as to how long can one stick with their plans? What you thought you really wanted in the beginning of the year, could possibly be leading you to everything that you loathed, by the end of that year. Hence, what I find fascinating is that; sticking to your plan will definintely teach you some lessons; and changing them also teaches you a lot about yourself. Hence! There is always a learning in setting goals. And on that note, I’d like to share mine on this blog
This year my very first resolution is to have “No space for guilt or fear”.
As easy as this one looks, I know for a fact that for most people, especially women, this is a difficult one to follow. In my 34 years of existence in this world, I have come to learn that all of my decisions made on the basis of ‘fear’ ; getting married too quickly fearing that maybe it’ll bring me closer to being the perfect girl, hiring too quickly fearing I’d miss out on growth opportunities, purchasing something too quickly fearing nothing better might come along; all have been, I can proudly say today, massively ridiculous decisions!
Guilt is something that creeps into one’s thoughts, many a time without us even realising it. Society, extended family.. a lot of people, thrive on this. {i can have a sense of humour on the very first blog of this year}
Every decision that I have taken, which is based fearlessness and a mental debate, dichotomy, fighting with guilt; have proven to be fantastic decisions; and have made me the woman that I always wanted to be. My decision to head for my very first yoga teacher training, while leaving my family and friends and life behind in India, to go and sit in the middle of a rice field in Bali, to self reflect;
heading for vipassana, where I was unreachable for my family, friends and my team for a period of 11 whole days! ; now that I look back, in retrospect, all have been fantastic life decisions. No amount of guilt feeling even in the remote subconscious of my mind, will ever make me rethink the decisions that I made.
Hence, this year, my goal, is to reflect on the very first thoughts of fear and guilt, as soon as they start popping up. And probably, with some mindfulness, explore the root causes of these thoughts! And I am urging YOU! my lovely reader, to do the same!
The second resolution is, “To Trust yourself FIRST”.
We do have a lot of noise around us, and everybody has an opinion that comes from their own sweet experiences. However, in my experience, every decision that we take, is truly and totally ours. At the end of the day, we only have ourselves to blame for where we are in our lives.
Hence, I insist on this philosophy that WE KNOW what’s right and what is wrong for us in our GUT.. always. And trusting yourself, following your intuition and listening to yourself… all is a habitual practise. We are told to idealise everybody around us, but what we know for ourselves no one can. I hope that I have elaborated my thoughts properly for you to understand.
The Third Resolution is to “Work Hard”.
for the longest time, I had always believed in the concept of ‘no pain, no gain’. Numerous times, I have burnt out, during crucial periods when I was needed the most. Clearly , that philosophy had backfired. One very relatable example that I can share is the few physical injuries over time due to pushing myself during my workouts and not resting enough.
This year, I plan to intentionally work hard, : putting in an all nighter, doesn’t have to be painful or remorseful, working seamlessly doesn’t have to be stressful. Slow multitasking is a concept that I am beginning to embrace; and I personally believe that it is a better way of building a good work flow for oneself.
The Fourth Resolution this year is to love yourself and take care of yourself, fiercely.
Again, as easy as this one looks, it is a pretty difficult one to follow when we are in a rush of things to do during our daily lives; prioritising oneself becomes a bit challenging. The goal this year, is to NOT look at it that way. Self care shouldn’t be the challenge. Having time for yourself and your thoughts, shouldn’t be an addition to your day, but a routine. This is a reminder, that we exist because of our bodies, our minds and our soul, and nourishing them consistently shouldn’t be just a part of a to do list.
The Fifth and final resolution for this year, is to “Never Settle against your standards”.
This has been one of my biggest learnings last year.. that only we decide how we should be treated. We cannot blame anybody else for the way we are treated. The following phrases are so common and find my responses after the apostrophe {this is what I would tell my friends }:
“oh, that vendor wasn’t listening to me”… find another option;
“oh that friend was forcing me to have another drink”… not a great person.. hence, a friend;
“oh that girl shouted at me”… please WALK OUT of that situation
Remember, my dear dear reader, We are the ones who set our own standards. So… set em high!
And on that note, I’d Love to know more about your thoughts this New Year’s Eve. Do write to me in my DMs, or on the comments; whichever speaks to you. And let’s begin this year on the note of Peace, Abundance and Good Health.
Cheers
